Pray every day alone and with your children and husband.
Monthly Confession (at a minimum)
Keep Holy the Sabbath
Not only going to mass on Sunday, but making Sundays a day of rest for yourself and your family. Try extra hard to have the wash done on Saturday (laundry always seems to get me.) A family meal either brunch or dinner is a great way to get all the kids together and build community. Invite extended family as you are able. Say "no" to some of the soccer games and say "yes" to a family outing.
I can't encourage you enough to get to daily mass as often as you possibly can. I have been in the cry room with small children for many years and often left thinking-was it worth it? The mass is the highest form of prayer in the church. It is the greatest way we praise and worship God. If you haven't gone to daily mass in the past, start by adding just one day. Go to www.masstimes.org to find mass times near you. Sometimes the mass that is easiest to attend maybe be at the neighboring parish.
Read and meditate on the the mass readings before you go
When you pray through the readings, psalm and gospel before mass, you will gain infinitely more during mass. And if you add the daily reading of In Conversation with God by Francis Fernandez you will have so much spiritual nourishment.
As mothers we are in service every day. It may be unrealistic to go out and serve a meal at the homeless shelter or visit those in prison. So it is important we serve those in our care graciously. But during the routine service in the home, I can get cranky and feel "put upon." So try this idea. Imagine the child or spouse is actually Jesus. Could you change one more diaper for Jesus joyfully? Could you unroll Jesus' stinky socks to wash them? Could you clean up another cup of spilled milk for Jesus?
An ironing idea I learned from Kimberly Hahn is to pray for the person for whom you are ironing. e.g. "Lord bless my husband as he wears this shirt. May he be wise and kind as he wears it."
Learn about the Great Women who have gone before
Study the lives of the saints, especially Our Lady to see how other Moms have grown in holiness. St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, St. Frances of Rome, St. Rita, St. Gianna~ we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses. Learn about these ladies and ask their intercession. An easy way to learn more about all the saints is to get the daily "saint of the day" email, subscribe by clicking here.
Fill your own cup
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lastly, learn to be silent
Over the last couple of years, I have been trying to say less. (If you know me, you will be laughing out loud at this.) But I am trying. To be silent especially when angry is a great way to diffuse a tough situation. Not making an extra comment, or having the last word helps us grow in holiness and mortifies the tongue. Not lashing out at children or spouse (however much they deserve it) gets us under controls and lets us be the kind and holy woman we want to be. And lastly being silent when gossip crops up. Saying nothing, or changing the subject works wonders!
1 Peter 1:15 "..be holy in all you do.."